Dipo Adebayo
4 min readFeb 26, 2023

How To Stop Being Anxious.

5 Simple Perspectives To Help You Worry Less.

We have no business worrying about things we can’t control or change.

For example, we worry about that colleague that doesn't like us, or some mistake we made in the past

We can't control who likes us, but we can control how we react when they show their dislike— either we respond with hate or with grace.

Similarly, we can’t change our past, but we can determine our future. Though we may have experienced things in the past that hurt us deeply, we can’t afford to stay in the past, going over the hurt again and again in our minds.

Rather, by God’s grace, we can learn from the past, focus on the future, and move on. (P.S Sometimes, we need the help of a therapist to move on.)

The next time you’re about to spiral down into worrying about things you can’t control, please remember these 5 things:

1. The only person you have full control of is YOU.

Stop letting things you can't control worry you and drain your energy. Focus on things you can control.

And the number one thing you can control is YOU.

The better you become, the more you expand your influence and have a better chance to influence people and situations connected to you.

2. You can’t control people.

The best you can do is influence people — you can’t control them. In the end, THEY decide what they do.

Similarly, you don't control people's opinions about you. No matter what you do, some people will not like you or regard you.

Stop worrying about it. Instead, focus on what you can control- you. Keep improving yourself so you become someone that God is proud of. That's what matters.

3. You don’t always control the outcome of your efforts.

You may apply for a job, business deal, scholarship, promotion etc. but you don’t decide if they accept you or not. Stop worrying about it.

Instead, work on what you can control; keep improving your CV/proposal/efforts and keep applying for other opportunities.

4. Do this for situations outside your control.

You can't control some situations, but there may be someone who can. Instead of worrying needlessly, see if you can influence that situation through that person, or through someone who knows that person.

Sometimes, the best you can do about things outside your control is PRAY; talk to the ONE in control of everything. Then, just REST.

You may say, "Dipo, these things are easier said than done." I agree. But it is possible.

You can train your mind, by God's help, to worry less and less about things you cannot control and focus more on things that you can

5. Say the Serenity Prayer & Meditate on Scripture.

Do you often find yourself worried or anxious?

Say the Serenity prayer: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

And memorize and think deeply on these:

Therefore I tell you, stop being worried or anxious (perpetually uneasy, distracted) about your life... Look at the birds of the air; they neither sow [seed] nor reap [the harvest] nor gather [the crops] into barns, and yet your heavenly Father keeps feeding them. Are you not worth much more than they? Matthew 6:25‭-‬26 AMP

And which of you by worrying can add one hour to his life’s span? So if you are not even able to do a very little thing [such as that], why are you worried about the rest? Luke 12:25‭-‬26 AMP

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Hi. I'm Dipo. I write, speak and train on soft skills, teenagers, emotional healing, and overcoming fear, failure, shame, rejection, and other self-limiting obstacles to your progress.

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Dipo Adebayo

I am a water engineer, softskills coach, writer & teen counselor. I write on hope and rising above shame, rejection, fear & failure. Follow on IG @dipoadebayo