How to silence your inner critic
You have a burning desire to be something, to do something. You want to make a mark on the world.
Maybe it’s to learn a skill, get a degree, or start a business. Perhaps your dream is to write a book, start a family or lose weight.
But no sooner do you set out to achieve that brilliant dream, critical thoughts race into your mind:
What makes you think you can do that? Really? Are you qualified?
What will people say? What if you are rejected, why bother trying? Save yourself the shame
You failed the last time, you'll fail again. You are a loser, you will lose again.
Sometimes this discouraging inner thoughts are echoes of words people have said to you, maybe your family, friends, a teacher or someone you respected or loved. Sometimes, they are echoes of a voice of doubt that came from past failures.
This inner voice (or inner critic) fills your heart with fear— the fear of failure, of rejection, of being the odd one out, the fear of shame.
You begin to feel demotivated, so you procrastinate making the effort needed to achieve your dream. You find excuses why you can't do it now. You say, "oh maybe when I have time, or when I finish doing this or that" but we both know the real reason— it's fear created by your inner critic.
What do you do when your inner voice (or inner critic) begins to demotivate you and make you doubt you will achieve your dreams or goals?
1- Change your self-talk
Do not let your inner critic go on saying you can’t achieve your dreams because you are a loser or whatever, rather tell yourself something else that empowers you.
What we regularly say we are becomes how we define ourselves (or our identity), and that's because we believe the things we consistently tell ourselves.
If you often tell yourself that you can't achieve your dreams because you are a failure, then over time you will believe you are indeed a failure, and that becomes your identity.
Now here's the thing with identity: it's hard to move beyond the level of your identity.
Even if you dream lofty goals, if you see yourself as a loser, your inner critic will drag you down by telling you, "Hey Loser, what do you think you're doing to dream that, you have no business thinking you can ever achieve that, you don't belong up there in the skies with other achievers, you belong down here"
Now when your inner critic says this, you have to silence it with an empowering confession; you can try this or whatever works for you:
"Hey Achiever, you have every right to think you can achieve this goal, in fact, your dream is too small, make it bigger. You have no business playing small because you are afraid, aim high and soar to the stars, you belong in the skies. You are an eagle, not a chicken!"
Say this empowering confession until it paints a different picture in your mind of yourself and makes you feel better about yourself.
It’s important you speak it out with your mouth, rather than just thinking it; its key to fight negative thoughts, not only with positive thoughts, but also with positive words.
If you keep telling yourself empowering and motivating confessions that speak to your identity and tell you the truth about who you are, you will eventually believe them, and once you have the right identity or view of yourself then you are on your way to achieving your goals.
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Achieving your dreams begins by silencing the inner critic that talks down at you and replacing it with confessions that empower you and build faith in you.
For more on changing your self talk, read these articles:
The power of positive self talk: https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-talk
Positive self talk: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.calmsage.com/positive-self-talk/amp/
2- Change how you see yourself.
Have you ever looked at the mirror and all you saw was a not-good-enough?
You go through life seeing yourself as never good enough.
Sure, people sometimes say you rock, but you don’t believe them, afterall they don’t really know you; you alone see the real you and all you see is a broken record; life lost its melody a long time ago.
And you lost hope on you.
But I dare you, I dare you to pick yourself up from the floor and give yourself a second chance. Give yourself as many chances as it takes. Don’t believe the lie that you aren’t worth the try.
Don’t give up on yourself.
Yes, you’ve failed a dozen times, but you aren’t a failure. Yes, you’ve been rejected but you aren’t a reject.
You may be covered in dirt but you’re still golden.
Your failures do not define you. Your bad experiences don't have to be the lens through which you view yourself and the world
Your life shrinks or expands in proportion to the image you have of yourself and your future.
Don’t expect to succeed if you see yourself as a failure, don’t expect acceptance if you think yourself a misfit
Create an image of yourself and your future from the Bible and make it an anchor you hold on to.
Lift up your eyes from the dark depths of how you see yourself to the glorious hills of how God sees you.
Get excited about who you are and where you're headed.
It just might change your life.
For more on changing your self image, read this: Whether you think you can or you can't, you're right: https://www.leadingteams.net.au/self-talk/amp/
3- Talk to a Therapist: If you consistently talk down on yourself and see yourself in a horrible light, despite your efforts to change this, consider seeing a mental health therapist or a counselor and visit the links below.
For more insight on identity, self-worth, seeing the truth of who you are, and rising above the inner critic, check out these amazing articles & videos and remember to share with others:
12 Videos on Identity that can greatly boost your Self-esteem: https://link.medium.com/cT6eOXlVqmb
How to transcend your Inner Critic: https://link.medium.com/muNP9LdJcnb
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