Dipo Adebayo
8 min readNov 11, 2021

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Most times the challenge people present at first goes deeper than what they say.

And for the time you spend listening, give complete attention; let them feel like nothing else matters to you right then but them. Make them the centre of your attraction for the time being.

Now the thing is this: usually, it’s those areas that they aren’t comfortable talking about — that’s where the problem is.

People are willing to talk more than we realise, but they need to know they would not be judged. They need to know what they say isn't going to change the way we see them.

whatever you tell me won’t change how I see you; it won’t change the respect, regard and care I have for you.

The more people feel you aren’t trying to control them the more things they will feel comfortable telling you.

There are aspects to getting people to open up to you that require intuition. Certain things can’t be taught, you intuitively know them as you practice what has been taught.

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Dipo Adebayo

I am a water engineer, softskills coach, writer & teen counselor. I write on hope and rising above shame, rejection, fear & failure. Follow on IG @dipoadebayo